Changing our response to change
Jodi Armstrong • May 15, 2020
Changing our response to change
In the world around us there is only one constant guarantee and it is that of change. So much of our environment is transitory particularly during these uncertain times where we face a worldwide pandemic. Our ability and our children's ability to adapt to change is increasingly tested. In the past few weeks’ children have been asked to adapt to being separated from their friends, to a lack of normal schooling and to no more trips to parks, beaches and play areas. They have been asked to accept that they will no longer be able to hug members not of their immediate family even some that they previously spent every day with. They have been asked to adapt to huge changes in their routine and to do this with minimal emotional disturbance. We know that even small changes to a child's world have much more of an impact on them than they do on more mature adults and this emotional turmoil often manifests in different ways. Change should be the most important skill taught, however it is often one we try to protect ourselves and our children from. Our brain is wired to dislike change or something that is unknown. This is a primitive response in order to protect us, however to thrive in adapting situations we need to become comfortable with uncertainty. Children need to continue to feel safe and secure in changing situations so that they can be their best selves and live happy lives. They need to continue to have a strong belief in themselves and their abilities despite changing circumstances around them. They require adaptation when things don't go as they had planned or they are thrown a curveball in life. This is a skill they can then carry with them into adulthood.
So how do we teach this essential skill to our little people? How do we foster this idea that change is necessary and can be good? Here are some ideas;
- Children need to be surrounded by a positive environment and people who love them, who use positive language about the world and who impart foundational beliefs which will affirm their identity.
-In all situations show your child that something good can come of change. Teach them how to find the silver linings.
-When facing a challenge it is important to have unique thinking patterns or ways of looking at a situation. Teach your child how to keep an open mind so that they can identify opportunities for problem solving.
-Do not compare yourself with others and teach your children to do the same. Highlight their unique talents and life privileges so that they learn that nothing is gained by playing the victim.
- When your child is faced with a change, remind them of all the changes they have overcome in the past and how resilient they actually were and are.
-Show your child how to acknowledge their emotions but not always feed into them. Emotions are there to guide us but they are temporary and more positive ones can be chosen.
- Talk to children about difficult changes you have overcome in your life so that they may see that change is inevitable and embracing it will cause less pain than resistance. Share your experiences expressing how each change made you feel and what helped you overcome it.
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